Be “too busy” to participate, cooperate with others, coordinate action and keep your commitments, and let people know.
Prioritize your commitments with other participants.
Don’t notice and acknowledge when people contribute to you and your capacity to think and act effectively.
Be a “charming jerk” who says all the right things in an effort to get away with as much as you can for as long as you can.
Be sneaky promoting yourself and your offers as if people will not notice.
Take as much as you can and contribute as little as possible to increase your ROI.
Be cynical about wholesome virtues, such as caring about one’s marriage and family, being charitable, embodying spiritual concerns and moral values, and caring about customers, employees, employers and colleagues.
Don’t make offers to contribute or help others.
Forget how important the concerns and ambitions of your listeners are to them.
Ignore the meaning, relevance and value of what you have to say to others.
Make irrelevant digressions or stray from the declared topic.
Opine -- make personal judgments without request or offering grounding.
Trivialize the contributions and work made by others.
Assume postures of already-knowing, authority, wisdom or knowledge without request or accomplishments to back up your claim.
Offer knowledge that produces unsatisfactory outcomes; don’t offer advice about how you earn $100,000 when your listeners’ ambitions are higher.
Offer “good ideas” or speculations without request that waste other peoples’ time, energy, money and opportunities.
Coach or advise without request or where you have no qualification.
Have conversations or offer insights that are “interesting”, “fascinating”, “intriguing”, “glamorous” or “clever” but unproductive and irrelevant.
Make assessments and commitments and don’t keep them or meet common, normal, average, traditional or mediocre standards when you do keep them.
Pester people with requests and offers.
Be shy, insecure, uncertain, afraid and too timid to participate fully.
Play the devils advocate for people and make them the unwanted gift of always having a negative assessment and reasons why not.
Confuse “possibilities and fantasies” with “opportunities”.
Use clichés and common business metaphors.
Be sure to share all the common sense and common knowledge you have learned over the years that everyone already knows.
Take your time. Disregard other people’s desires for prompt, thoughtful and well-crafted responses.
Remember that you paid your fee so that you have the right to do things your way.
Ignore differentials in power because underneath it all, everyone is equal.
Always have an opinion to offer about everything and everyone.
Turn the forums into political conversations.
Take the opportunity to practice your “spin” and “bullshit”.
Make people prove they are dignified, powerful and worth your respect before you treat them that way.